I hate myself. I always mess up and i constantly get picked on. I hate the way i look and how other people see me as some dumb pushover. I can't deal with it anymore, i just want to end it all. What can I do?Click to Reveal Answer
We hear how low and sad you are. Thankyou for using the site and being brave enough to write down how you are feeling.
It sounds like you may be feeling suicidal. If this is the case then it's important that you talk to someone as soon as possible who can offer you immediate support. We are not a crisis service as we can only guarantee an answer within 24 hours.
You can call Childline on 0800 1111 or The Samaritans on 116 123 at any time. There is always someone to listen and they will give you space to chat at your own pace. Sometimes just saying these things out loud, even though it's difficult, can help you to feel more in control.
We're wondering too if there's anyone you can talk to at home or school. If someone know how tough things are for you they can help. People like a parent or a teacher may be shocked or worried that you feel this way but they will want to help you.
It sounds like other people's behaviour is really damaging your self-esteem. It can be really easy to get stuck in a dark place if you are surrounded by negativity and people being mean. This can change the way you see yourself and make you think that there's no way out.
It may not feel like it but things can change. Ending it may seem like the only solution just now, but talking can help you to find other ways of managing. It is unacceptable for other people to pick on you and this behaviour says much more about them than it does about you. We would suggest that you are not a "push over" but that you probably feel powerless at the moment because of the way you're being treated.
You've talked about messing up, but actually you're allowed to. You are still learning and developing and it's okay for things to go wrong. Everyone makes mistakes.
You don't say who's picking on you, but if it's kids at school then let someone know. A teacher can keep an eye on things without getting directly involved just now if you don't want them to. The school should listen to how you want things to be managed.
We understand that it can be really hard to fight back when you feel so low but working on your self-esteem can help you to feel stronger inside. It may not change things immediately but it will remind you to be kind to yourself and can make you more able to cope. This link (CLICK HERE) tells you more about this.
You can also read more about feeling suicidal and how to manage these feelings if you CLICK HERE. This doesn't replace the need for you to talk to someone if you can.
We hope this has reminded you that you're not alone and there are people who can give you the support you deserve. Please come back to us if you need to but please use one of the above services if it's an emergency situation and you need immediate help.
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Hello I’m feeling really down I live with my mum, stepfather and two little siblings and I feel my parents are strict and mean at this time I am visiting my dad my older brother and my stepmom I would do anything for my dad and he is my happiness I am leaving soon and I won’t see him till Christmas I don’t want to go and it makes me really sad and depressed in an already sad life (I feel sad all the time) what should I do to overcome this?Click to Reveal Answer
Hi there. Thanks for coming to the Cool2Talk website.
It sounds like you're having a rough time at the moment. You're not getting on very well with your Mum and Stepfather, who you live with, and you feel they're being mean and strict. You're happy when you're with your Dad but now you're feeling low because you have to leave Dad soon to go home and you wont see him again for a while.
When there is tension at home it can lead to emotional difficulties and have a negative effect on our mood.
Is there someone you could speak to about what's going on at home and how you're feeling? Maybe Dad or another trusted relative? If not, is there a teacher at school you could approach? Are your Mum and Stepfather aware of how you're feeling? Is it possible to have a conversation with one of them to make them aware of the effect the situation at home is having on your wellbeing? Maybe you could get support from someone to help you let your Mum and Stepfather know how you're feeling??
It can be really helpful to talk things through with someone you trust. Even if this does not change the situation at home it can make things worse when we bottle problems up.
It sounds like ideally you would like to live with your Dad. Is this something you could talk to him about? Your happiness is important.
You also mention that you're feeling sad all the time. Again, it can be really helpful to find someone to talk to about this. Your guidance teacher may be able to refer you for support.
Please click here to be taken to our health info zone to read more about feelings of sadness.
You may benefit from talking to a cousellor online. Click on the 121 icon on our homepage to register with a Cool2Talk counsellor on a Monday or Wednesday evening. Childline also have an online counsellor available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Click here to register for a chat.
We hope this helps. Please feel free to come back anytime if we can help with anything else.
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I don’t really know how to cope right now I’ve got a lot of problems for example my anxiety is through the roof and I hate who I am so much I juts don’t know how I can survive another 3 years of school. I want to get help at school but they just tell my parents and I find they make it worse. I also find myself hating things I used to love like my dancing.Click to Reveal Answer
We hear that you're feeling low and worried and that you're no longer enjoying the things you used to. When you feel stuck in a negative cycle like this it can be really difficult to see any positives or to recognise that things can change. This can lead to you not liking yourself very much.
It sounds like you don't want mum and dad to know how you're feeling. It can be really scary saying these things out loud to people, your parents may be shocked or worried. But we're sure that they will want to help you. Talking to them yourself, on your terms, means you can explain how things are for you just now. You can work out how they can support you at home and then they can help you to talk to the school. If it's difficult talking face to face then you could write stuff down to show them, or even send a text asking if you can talk. Maybe telling one parent first might feel easier.
These feelings can be managed, and they can change, but it's really important to talk to someone. Worries hate being shared, it gives them less power. They would much rather be shut away in your head so that they grow bigger and you have to deal with them alone. Talking about how you feel can help you to feel more in control.
If school know that you're feeling anxious they can help to make the rest of your school time easier. 3 years is a long time to feel unhappy and can impact on your learning as well as the other things you've mentioned.
It's totally normal for moods to go up and down, it's part of being human. But if this is lasting a long time then tell someone. You can read more about positive mental health and also about anxiety if you click HERE and HERE.
Even if it's really tough try to keep dancing, exercise can make you feel better both mentally and physically and it's good for your self-esteem.
This link (CLICK HERE) has more information on building self-esteem.
We hope this has reminded you that you're not alone and people can help. You can also come and chat to our online counsellor (CLICK HERE) This is safe space where you can talk about things in more detail.
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Last night I had suicidal thoughts and I was going to take my life and I still do cause life just doesn’t seem worth living right now and it scares me and I’m just not happy and I don’t really want to talk to anyone as nobody understands just how hard it is and they always make it about them and I’m just scared they will think less of me if they do know what’s really going on I also self harm and I did it really badly last night and I couldn’t stop cryingClick to Reveal Answer
We can hear that your feelings have started to feel too much for you to cope with, causing you to have thoughts that you want to die. It is really important that you tell someone that you are having these thoughts. With the right support, feelings can and often do change. Things can get better, there are people who can help.
Telling someone how you feel helps, it can make it feel less heavy to carry around if you share it with someone. You have control over how much you share, make sure you are comfortable with what you are sharing. Be certain you are totally comfortable with the person you talk to. It can feel really scary telling someone you have suicidal thoughts, but talking about it can feel like a relief and the fear often passes once you start to talk. It can help to plan what you are going to say, even practising it.
As this is not an emergency service please pop the phone number of the Samaritans onto your phone, 116123, they are a service that are there 24/7 that you can speak to for support when you are at that really low place.
Exercising is not only good for you physically but also helps you keep a healthy mind, as does having a healthy diet. Doing something creative, like art or writing of listening to music often helps a lot of people. Set small goals and make a list of things that make you smile, even really small things.
In connection to your self-harm make sure you do it safely, that means clean equipment, put an antiseptic cream on after to prevent infection. CLICK HERE to read more about self-harm.
There is a good app you may find useful CLICK HERE to download it.
There also a couple of websites you may want to access for information and support.
Most importantly speak to someone and tell them how you are feeling, someone you trust and feel comfortable talking to. Come back any time we always listen and respond within 24 hours.
I'm really struggling with depression, I have been for years. I've had 4 different therapists/ sycologists and nothings helped. Depression and bipolar run I'm my family and a lot of messed you things have happened in my life but with me being 16 they all say it comes down to hormones. So I stop asking for help, the cutting gets worse and nothing ever gets better. I've write more suicide notes that I can count on my hands but never had the guys to do it because I don't want my mum to feel the way I do right now. I came really close to doing it the other week and broke down. I told my mum that nothing was getting better and she made me an emergency doctors appointment. We just moved so I have a new gp, I told her everything and said I didn't want to be here anymore. I showed her my cuts and scares and told her I was scared to be alone incase I killed myself. All she did was give me a booklet on self harm and called my sycologist to let her know that I came to the gp and my self harm has gitton worse. That night I realised even when I'm at my weakest and begging for help nobody does. I want to die but I dint want to hurt my mum. Now I don't know what to do because I don't think I can do this much longer. I'm really trying.Click to Reveal Answer
We can hear how desperate you feel right now, rock bottom, not wanting to be here, but also not wanting to hurt mum, who cares about you a lot. She was there when you asked for help and made a doctor’s appointment which we hear did not actually prove too helpful, like you say you were begging for help and all they did was give you a leaflet and let you psychologist know that you had visited.
Firstly as this is not an emergency service it would be good to know that you had The Samaritans phone number on your phone 116 123, they are a service specifically to be there and listen and support you if you get to that really dark low place, call them, they are trained to listen to you and support you through that difficult time. CLICK HERE to read more about suicide, there may be something that you find helpful there.
It is so important to open up about everything that troubles you, especially how much you have been close to ending your life, the people who are trying to help you have to understand fully where you are right now in order to help.
CLICK HERE to read more about self-harm, there may be something there of interest.
We do understand that speaking about self-harm and suicide is really hard and although not recommended to be dealt with online, if you have nobody else you can speak to about these thoughts you could come along and talk to the counsellor here on a Monday or Wednesday between 8pm and 9pm. CLICK HERE, register, have a look around and read about the service, then return when the counsellor is available.
Please come back and speak some more here if it helps, we always listen and respond within 24 hours.