Hello I’m feeling really down I live with my mum, stepfather and two little siblings and I feel my parents are strict and mean at this time I am visiting my dad my older brother and my stepmom I would do anything for my dad and he is my happiness I am leaving soon and I won’t see him till Christmas I don’t want to go and it makes me really sad and depressed in an already sad life (I feel sad all the time) what should I do to overcome this?Click to Reveal Answer
Hi there. Thanks for coming to the Cool2Talk website.
It sounds like you're having a rough time at the moment. You're not getting on very well with your Mum and Stepfather, who you live with, and you feel they're being mean and strict. You're happy when you're with your Dad but now you're feeling low because you have to leave Dad soon to go home and you wont see him again for a while.
When there is tension at home it can lead to emotional difficulties and have a negative effect on our mood.
Is there someone you could speak to about what's going on at home and how you're feeling? Maybe Dad or another trusted relative? If not, is there a teacher at school you could approach? Are your Mum and Stepfather aware of how you're feeling? Is it possible to have a conversation with one of them to make them aware of the effect the situation at home is having on your wellbeing? Maybe you could get support from someone to help you let your Mum and Stepfather know how you're feeling??
It can be really helpful to talk things through with someone you trust. Even if this does not change the situation at home it can make things worse when we bottle problems up.
It sounds like ideally you would like to live with your Dad. Is this something you could talk to him about? Your happiness is important.
You also mention that you're feeling sad all the time. Again, it can be really helpful to find someone to talk to about this. Your guidance teacher may be able to refer you for support.
Please click here to be taken to our health info zone to read more about feelings of sadness.
You may benefit from talking to a cousellor online. Click on the 121 icon on our homepage to register with a Cool2Talk counsellor on a Monday or Wednesday evening. Childline also have an online counsellor available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Click here to register for a chat.
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i think I have major jealousy depression and stress issues. I am not sure what is wrong with me. I recently broke up with my long term girlfriend. I would constantly get jealous and not feel good enough, I would feel less worthy because she had a job and I didn’t, because previous relationships she had been in her partners could drive and where older and had jobs. I had major jealousy issues and ended up leaving the relationship because of that. I was also under a lot of stress from school and her wanting to see me a lot that I ended the relationship because of it. Now I’m out of the relationship and I met a new girl who I like. I find it hard to develop feelings and let myself get into a relationship with her. I feel jealous and not good enough. In many ways I see her as superior to me and it makes me feel bad and self conscious and like I’m not good enough. I get angry and it makes me not want to develop the relationship further. I want to try love myself first before I can go further with her - I want to feel happy and confident but it’s not hard due to self consciousness derived from acne and me not having a job. This is a major point of anger and jealousy from me which I don’t understand why. I think I feel guilty due to being unemployed or feel lesser than those who are. I really like her but this anger hurts and I feel depressed because I can’t be with her. I am also stressed because I want to see her but also want to try get a job and juggle my schoolwork. She often says things that Make me feel horrible, it’s not her fault though. Sometimes she brings up the fact she is going to get a job which upsets me, I don’t know if it’s jelousy or me feeling lesser to her. Sometimes She brings up other guys and it drives me insane with jealousy. I don’t know how to deal with my jealousy issues that prohibit me from trusting and loving someone that in turn just makes me feel depressed. I don’t know how I can make myself feel better, if I just need to try love myself and accept it and try spend time with this girl and try not to get jealous, or if relationships just aren’t for me due to my jealousy and self conscious attitudes. Don’t get it wrong I genuinely like this girl I just am worried I’m going to get hurt. These problems drive me insane and I just want to be happy. Thanks.Click to Reveal Answer
Jealousy is when you feel bad because of what someone else has done or is doing. You can feel jealous about anything and it can sometimes feel like it takes over your life.
Jealousy isn’t about love and caring about someone, it’s about feeling insecure and scared about the future. When you do this, you let your fears take over and we can hear that your low opinion of yourself appears to be triggering these feelings.
If you feel like this, it can be good to talk about how you're feeling and what's happening for you.
It sounds like you have got really strong feelings for you girlfriend and that you care a lot about your relationship. Feeling jealous can be natural when people care but it is how people act when they feel this way that can make feeling jealous a bad thing.
Giving each other freedom and having trust are really important parts of relationships but talking is also really important. It might be a good idea to talk these feelings over with your girlfriend. Between you, you might be able to work out how best you can deal with the feelings you have about her talking to other lads.
Relationships can be difficult sometimes and have ups and downs. It can be helpful to ask yourself what are you are jealous about.
We hear the guilt you have about not being good enough for her, you don’t have a job, or drive like other lads, she knew this when she entered into a relationship with you which says these material issues are not that important to her.
Building your self-esteem is really important and you are asking yourself if you should be in a relationship or not. We all deserve to be happy and if being in a relationship right now is not making you happy maybe it would help to take a break until you learn to love yourself first but only you will know if that feels right. CLICK HERE to read about how this can be achieved.
If speaking to someone feels too difficult then you may want try the 121 section on here, you can speak to a counsellor, anonymously and confidentially CLICK HERE, register then return when she is available for a chat.
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I have started to masturbate A LOT and i have started to have cravings in school. So me and my BF ( im gay) have started to masturbate together in the same toilet thing. Is this bad??? Could we get into trouble if a teacher finda out??? And also i have also got cum EVERYWHERE and i cant clean it all up, could they do a dna test and find out it is me??? Thanks, Ronald MacDonald.Click to Reveal Answer
First of all masturbation is a normal part of human life, and when you are growing and developing sexually it can be a way to start exploring your body, your imagination sexually and getting sexual relief and pleasure. None of this is bad. Please click here to have a look at more info on masturbation on the NHS website.
Masturbation is harmless. However, if you feel the need to masturbate is interfering with your everyday life, talking to a GP may help. It can feel difficult to talk about this kind of thing but remember what you say to your GP is usually completely confidential and they're not going to judge you for masturbating as they understand this is a normal part of life.
Your school may take some sort of action if they find out that you and your boyfriend are masturbating in the school toilet. I can't tell you what they would do or how they would approach this. Your semen (cum) does contain your DNA but it's very unlikely anyone will carry out a DNA test.
We notice that you've posted this question twice and given us different ages. Also, you haven't told us what age your boyfriend is. If you would like to read a bit more about sex and the law please click here to be taken to our Health Info Zone. It sounds like you're concerned about getting into trouble and would like some guidance. The age of consent is 16. The law is there for protection. By having a legal age, we can prosecute those people who take advantage of children and abuse young people.
If you and your boyfriend are sexually active it's important to know how to keep yourself safe. Health workers are there to help you and make sure you access the sexual health services that you need. They do need to make sure that you are safe and not in any kind of abusive situation. All health services are accessible to young people even if they are not 16 yet, this includes sexual health services for contraception. You might consider approaching your GP or school nurse if you'd like more info and advice on this. For more info click here.
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I cannot get over my ex girlfriend of 2 and a half years I’ve tried and tried but nothing works, she is now seeing someone else which kills me inside, how do I go about this problem, I feel it will never go away.Click to Reveal Answer
How difficult is it when you are still in love with someone. It can really hurt. Usually if you are able to move on, time helps, as does going out with friends etc. It can help to see the process as a form of grieving, and try to focus on the loss, but also on the fact that the relationship is gone. Allowing yourself to hurt and accept these feelings can help you gently start looking forward to a furture that doesn't involve your ex. The problem is, if there’s no hope of reconciliation, you’re just prolonging the agony.
The best way to get over a relationship is to sever all connection – even if just for a while. That means no sneaky peaks at their social media feeds, no phone numbers & avoiding the places where you know you might see them. Keep as much distance as possible, it may be you are keeping up a friendship in the hope that it will rekindle your relationship. This clearly isn't the case.
We hope this helps - try to get involved in other things, with different people. Work on your thought processes as well - when you start to think about your ex, retrain your brain to think of something else...block one thought for another. It can actually work.
I was wondering what to do if you come out and your parents/family don't accept itClick to Reveal Answer
Hi there. Thanks for coming to Cool2Talk with your question.
It can be stressful for a person to 'come out' and often they can have worries and concerns about how the people around them will react. Thankfully there's not as much stigma these days but it does still exist unfortunately and this can lead to someone feeling like they need to hide their sexuality and pretend to be someone they are not.
Most importantly sexuality is on a spectrum and fancying someone of the same sex is normal, whether this is how you feel all the time or just sometimes. It's also normal to be attracted to members of both sexes. Peoples feelings and who they are attracted to can also change over time. All of this is normal and nothing to worry about.
It can be harmful to a persons mental health and wellbeing if they feel the need to hide who they really are and people shouldn't have to feel this way.
There is lots of support for LGBT+ people. It can be really helpful to talk to someone who will listen and understand. If you need it you can get support with issues like coming out and dealing with any negative reactions you experience from parents, family etc. Hopefully everyone would be supportive though and recognise that the most important things are that you are healthy, happy and able to be yourself.
Please click here to be taken to our health info zone for more useful LGBT+ info as well as a 'Coming Out Guide' which you may find useful.
Click here to be taken to the AB-Wish website for more useful information.
You may benefit from speaking confidentially to a counsellor. You can speak to a Cool2Talk counsellor on a Monday or Wednesday evening. To register click on the 121 icon on the home page. Alternatively contact a counsellor from Childline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Click here for more info.
The fantastic staff at Waverley Care offer information, advice and support to LGBT+ people. Check out their website or you can call, text or email the project worker:
- Email: email@example.com
- Telephone : 0141 332 2520 / 07760 701 308
We hope this helps. Please feel free to come back if we can help with anything else.